i was the red flag: Dating, Relationships & Everything I Had to Learn the Hard Way

I Was the Red Flag is a brutally honest, laugh-out-loud memoir about dating, friendship, self-discovery, and all the ways we accidentally get in our own way.Through a series of candid letters to her younger self, Milou revisits the men she dated, the mistakes she repeated, the lessons she resisted, and the surprising truths she learned along the way. From ghosting disasters and long-distance pen pals to age-gap relationships, accidental manifestations, and the difference between wanting love and being ready for it, each story combines humour, vulnerability, and hard-earned wisdom.But this isn't a book about finding "The One." It's about finding yourself.Written with warmth, wit, and refreshing self-awareness, I Was the Red Flag explores modern dating, friendship, heartbreak, independence, and the stories we tell ourselves about who we are. Along the way, readers are invited to reflect on their own relationships through practical exercises, honest questions, and gentle reminders that growth rarely arrives looking glamorous.For anyone who has ever ignored a red flag, chased the wrong person, mistaken chemistry for compatibility, or learned life's biggest lessons the hard way, this book offers both reassurance and a good laugh.Part memoir, part dating diary, and part conversation with a trusted friend, I Was the Red Flag is a celebration of imperfect choices, second chances, and the freedom that comes from finally seeing yourself clearly. Read more